Exit This Way: Getting off the Merry-Go-Round of Mutual Pretense

Jenny Harrington
16 min readJan 26, 2020

What is Mutual Pretense? It is when everyone knows the party is over and the patient is dying, but all parties involved act otherwise. It is a masquerade of hope. It is denial and it is a burden. We owe medical honesty, awareness, and agency to our dying. This can be done with love. Its time to get off the carousel of unawareness. Exit this way.

“It’s called a carousel. It lets us travel the way a child travels, around and around and back home again to a place where we know we are loved.” Mad Men. S:1, E13

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Jenny Harrington

Author, researcher, mother living on an island near Seattle. Now, notably, an international bunny smuggler. Find her struggles and snuggles at www.teamewan.com